"Congratulations"

We are learning how to handle our emotions when some friends/coworkers wish us that very thing. We understand that not everyone has heard the sad news, they only heard the initial happy news. However, we just kindly answer them with love and share some information about how it didn't work out. It is amazing how living in such a small town, how fast word travels through our jobs, and friends. It's also nice to feel many of those same people surround us with love & grace, during our time of grief. I'm not sure if it's part of the grieving process or what, but I find myself feeling kinda "numb" to the whole topic when people ask about it. Is that normal? My heart is still sad, and oh how I wish that nursery door was open with the smell of baby powder and cooing of a little baby, instead of a dark, quiet and with a closed door. I've never gone through this type of grieving process, so I'm not sure if this is part of it. I know when we lost the baby (3 years ago), I was sad, but I don't remember this part of the sadness.
I have been such a busy girl lately, that I find myself having only little time at home. Being busy is helping to keep my mind off of things. Today I actually took a long nap after work. Still feel emotionally tired. Of course Jim is gone, so I have had more quiet time, too.
Anyways, please continue your prayers for both of us. Every day is one day toward healing. Thank you again for all the cards, emails & kind words of encouragement.